The inevitability of quarrels in a relationship, or how to cope with stressful situations?
The relationship is very strange, but interesting thing. Perhaps each of us wants to find happiness and to carry it through the years. This is a normal desire of any person.
But life - it's not just a series of a meet, beautiful words, candlelit dinners and "pink" cloud over their heads. Life - it is everyday life, which are tinted gray paint as the parapet of the house, but it is these everyday can predetermine the future of the couple.
Today we subname topic of conflict, namely how the conflict affects the relationship and why quarrel and swear - this is normal.
Many couples tend to go crazy if the conflict can not be solved as quickly as possible. Both are engaged samoedstvom, remembering that as a yes, he or she could do no wrong. Some believe that a protracted conflict could become a point of no return for the relations, which, incidentally, very good reason.
If you are lucky enough to talk with your partner at the same time without affecting the delicate strings of the soul and the personality, but not without emotional accompaniment, such a quarrel may conversely make your relationship stronger. Just think how it will be easier when the pass mark "the first conflict." You will trust each other a lot more, just knowing that you can handle any differences. You will not put off in the "back burner" all sensitive issues, and be able to immediately resolve your question.
2. A splash of emotions
Agree, when we had a long wear a doubt, questions and experiences, we are not from this it becomes better. On the contrary, we cheat ourselves even more and frightening, exhausting thereby to a dead end. If the time to do nothing, then you blow up like a bomb, and then there will be very serious consequences.
Therefore, without fail, to solve their problems. Remember! Dumping all the negative on a soul mate - it is very wrong. Only in cases of real need, and for something in particular, you have to give everything, what do you think about it.
3. You are not a psychic
Believe me, no one knows what's going on in the mind of another person. Therefore, do not build illusions on account of the fact that your thoughts should be read as an open reference book. Your partner is not all-seeing and it could hurt your heart strings a particular theme that you do not pleasing.
What to do in this situation? The answer is simple! Just talk to your loved one. Not to blame, yell, complain about what he is-so and just talk. Quietly and without much emotion. If you have suffered for a long time, simply pretending to fish, then of course it's no good will not. At a certain stage, you can break away and breaking anything, so never and do not do anything on the emotions. Your actions can turn against you.
4. "We go to the convergence of"
During conflicts or petty domestic quarrels, you can find out what is important to your partner and what should be left "behind the scenes". And, of course, do not forget that sex after a major quarrel - this is a very interesting point about which we should not forget. He in particular, can bring you closer, in all senses of the word.
5. The person
If you imagine a young couple that immediately comes to mind the phrase "single entity". Yes, it's fine when you understand each other perfectly, but the quarrel is able to dispel the ghostly illusion. It's not bad that you are! On the contrary, you will realize that your significant other - it is an individual, which can also be their own preferences and desires.
Do not be afraid to quarrel. Cockroaches in your mind for sure will be felt in close communication. You'll adjust to each other and to some extent, change yourself. Use argument as a tool for understanding your loved one. Remember, everything you do in moderation, will pay off with a large percentage.